A blog reader, we will call her Jenny, has contributed a ring to the HateToHelp effort. THANK JENNY! But now we need help, because we're not sure how to give it away appropriately. Throw it in the sea? Give to a small child? Leave in an ashtray?

Here is her story of the red ring, summarized in our words on her request.

Jenny is a teacher in Philadelphia, and in 2003 met a very nice other man, who was a teacher, while teaching. It was all very teacherlike. After their first date, which happened at an outdoor film event, Jenny and Sammy (is this an okay pseudonymn, Jenny?) decided to be monogamous. All was going swimmingly for exactly 12 months. At their one year anniversary, Sammy even gave Jenny a ring (it was not an engagement ring), that had a piece of something red in the inside.

"It's because I love you," he said very lovingly.

Less than one month later, Jenny walked into Sammy's fine apartment (she had the key) one day to find an unusual suitcase in the foyer.

"Whose suitcase is this?" Jenny asked Sammy.

"My ex-girlfriend is in town and we are having a shrimp dinner!" Sammy said, sounding very excited.

Although some people might have been more worried at this point, Jenny really did trust Sammy completely, he was a social studies teacher after all, and so she said: "Well, that makes me a little uncomfortable, but I hope you have a nice time."

Boy, did they have a nice time. The day after the dinner with his ex, Sammy told Jenny that he was getting back together with his ex, a woman Jenny had never even heard of. "She really meets my needs," he explained.

In the years since, Jenny has bloomed. The break-up, she says, was certainly very difficult for her, but she now knows that Sammy was not the man for her. And so she says it is time to get rid of his red ring. In Athens, we have the ring in possession. What should we do with it?